A father at 13?!

When I first read the article below, I was really shocked. What happened to teenagers playing Playstation? Hide and seek? Computer games?

What is happening to the world? Babies are giving birth to babies! And poor Alfie doesn’t even look 13. 😦

This is really disheartening. I hope we could do something about this situation to prevent other similar cases from occurring. We should be teaching these kids how to play dolls and action figures… Keep them preoccupied with childhood stuff. Do not give them a reason to do something insane as this. 😦

What happened to Britian and their sex ed classes? Poor couple. They don’t even know what to do. They did it without even knowing the consequences.

I just hope they’ll be really good parents. But please, the parents of these kids, help them and guide them.

Let’s just say that I’m happy they didn’t abort the baby… Still. A 13 and 15-year old couple raising a kid isn’t a funny and comforting thought.

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BOY dad Alfie Patten yesterday admitted he does not know how much nappies cost — but said: “I think it’s a lot.”

Baby-faced Alfie, who is 13 but looks more like eight, became a father four days ago when his girlfriend Chantelle Steadman gave birth to 7lb 3oz Maisie Roxanne.

He told how he and Chantelle, 15, decided against an abortion after discovering she was pregnant.

The shy lad, whose voice has not yet broken, said: “I thought it would be good to have a baby.

“I didn’t think about how we would afford it. I don’t really get pocket money. My dad sometimes gives me £10.”

Alfie, who is just 4ft tall, added: “When my mum found out, I thought I was going to get in trouble. We wanted to have the baby but were worried how people would react.

“I didn’t know what it would be like to be a dad. I will be good, though, and care for it.”

Alfie’s story, broken exclusively by The Sun today has sparked a huge political storm with Tory leader David Cameron saying: “When I saw these pictures this morning, I just thought how worrying that in Britain today children are having children.

“I hope that somehow these children grow up into responsible parents but the truth is parenthood is just not something they should be thinking about right now.”

PM Gordon Brown refused to comment directly on the story but said it was important that the Government did all it could to prevent teenage pregnancies.

Alfie’s dad Dennis yesterday told how the lad does not really understand the enormity of his situation — but seemed desperate to be a devoted and responsible father.

He wanted to be the first to hold Maisie after the hospital birth. He tenderly kisses the baby and gives her a bottle.

And Dennis, 45, said: “He could have shrugged his shoulders and sat at home on his Playstation. But he has been at the hospital every day.”

Maisie was conceived after Chantelle and Alfie — just 12 at the time — had a single night of unprotected sex.

They found out about the baby when Chantelle was 12 weeks pregnant.

But they kept it a secret until six weeks later when Chantelle’s mum Penny, 38, became suspicious about her weight gain and confronted her.

After that Alfie’s family told only those closest to them for fear he would be “demonised” at school.

Chantelle gave birth to Maisie on Monday night after a five-hour labour at Eastbourne Hospital, East Sussex.

Last night she told The Sun: “I’m tired after the birth. I was nervous after going into labour but otherwise I was quite excited.”
Chantelle told how she discovered she was expecting after going to her GP with “really bad” stomach pains. She said: “Me and Alfie went. The doctor asked me whether we had sex. I said yes and he said I should do a pregnancy test. He did the test and said I was pregnant. I started crying and didn’t know what to do.

“He said I should tell my mum but I was too scared.

“We didn’t think we would need help from our parents. You don’t really think about that when you find out you are pregnant. You just think your parents will kill you.”

But Penny figured out what was going on after buying Chantelle a T-shirt which revealed her swelling tum.

Chantelle admitted she and Alfie — who are both being supported by their parents — would be accused of being grossly irresponsible. She said: “We know we made a mistake but I wouldn’t change it now. We will be good loving parents.

“I have started a church course and I am going to do work experience helping other young mums.

“I’ll be a great mum and Alfie will be a great dad.”

Chantelle and Maisie were released from hospital yesterday. They are living with Penny, Chantelle’s jobless dad Steve, 43, and her five brothers in a rented council house in Eastbourne. The family live on benefits. Alfie, who lives on an estate across town with mum Nicola, 43, spends most of his time at the Steadmans’ house.

He is allowed to stay overnight and even has a school uniform there so he can go straight to his classes in the morning.

Alfie’s dad, who is separated from Nicola, believes the lad is scared deep down.

He said: “Everyone is telling him things and it’s going round in his head. It hasn’t really dawned on him. He hasn’t got a clue of what the baby means and can’t explain how he feels. All he knows is mum and dad will help.

“When you mention money his eyes look away. And she is reliant on her mum and dad. It’s crazy. They have no idea what lies ahead.”

Dennis, who works for a vehicle recovery firm, described Alfie as “a typical 13-year-old boy”.

He said: “He loves computer games, boxing and Manchester United.” Dennis, who has fathered nine kids, told how he was “gobsmacked” when he discovered Alfie was to be a dad, too.

He said: “When I spoke to him he started crying. He said it was the first time he’d had sex, that he didn’t know what he was doing and of the complications that could come.

“I will talk to him again and it will be the birds and the bees talk. Some may say it’s too late but he needs to understand so there is not another baby.”

Chantelle’s mum said: “I told her it was lovely to have the baby but I wish it was in different circumstances. We have five children already so it’s a big financial responsibility. But we are a family and will pull together and get through.

“She’s my daughter. I love her and she will want for nothing.”

Last night Michaela Aston, of the anti-abortion Christian charity LIFE, said: “We commend these teenagers for their courage in bringing their child into the world.

“At the same time this is symptomatic of the over-sexualisation of our youngsters and shows the policy of value-free sex education just isn’t working.”

Today Sussex Police and the local council’s children services said they have investigated the case and pledged continued support for the young parents.

Britain’s youngest known father is Sean Stewart. He became a dad at 12 when the girl next door, 15-year-old Emma Webster, gave birth in Sharnbrook, Bedford, in 1998. They split six months later.

Source: The Sun 


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19 thoughts on “A father at 13?!

  1. xtina εїз February 17, 2009 at 10:28 pm Reply

    whoaaaaaaaaaaaa. naman. 😐

  2. Jean Monique Sanchez February 17, 2009 at 10:46 pm Reply

    Yeah. So young… *sniff*

  3. Van Denn Cruz February 17, 2009 at 11:03 pm Reply

    And yet "some" people say no to the reproductive health bill? Wtf they must be kidding. Who is spreading ignorance and misinformation now huh?Haha anyway thanks for posting Moe 🙂

  4. Willie Chan February 17, 2009 at 11:24 pm Reply

    welcome to hell kid.

  5. Chito, just Chito February 18, 2009 at 12:58 am Reply

    I don't think that's the logical conclusion.From the point of view of those who are anti-RH bill, it would be. "You see? This sort of thing happens even in a country that has more liberal laws regarding reproductive health."Think about it.

  6. KIKAY KATITAY February 18, 2009 at 8:10 am Reply

    Seeing a 17 or 18 year old girl pregnant is already disheartening then how much more is this and the father is only 13 (who looks like 8)?! 😦 I was still scribbling notes & mooning over crushes from 13 to 15. but this? What the..! It's so alarming considering they're still kids. Plus they still need their parents A LOT but now here they are, parents as well. Base on studies, for teen moms (especially below 17) they'll just treat their babies like dolls & base on statistics, teen parents tend to have another baby/ies by 20. Oh dear, what's happening to kids these days. But on the 2nd thought, wasn't Janice mothered to Aga's son when she was only 13 and they did "it" when she was only 12? :/btw, i read on the newspaper just a couple of minutes ago that Britain has the highest number of teen pregnancies in Europe. *sigh*

  7. k t i n e :) February 18, 2009 at 5:57 pm Reply

    pa repost. thanks 😀

  8. Jean Monique Sanchez February 18, 2009 at 9:38 pm Reply

    The Reproductive Health Bill is against Catholic principles. The solution is not merely a bill. 🙂 Let's make education a priority… And stop corruption to end poverty. 🙂

  9. Jean Monique Sanchez February 18, 2009 at 9:38 pm Reply

    LOL Ahia. Kawawa naman talaga. He didn't even know of the consequences of his actions…

  10. Jean Monique Sanchez February 18, 2009 at 9:42 pm Reply

    You have a point. Thing is, parents should be more responsible. Kids today are just brought up in a different manner. Is it because parents have become slightly apathetic? They usually leave education in the hands of teachers in school.If these kids were more closer to their parents, this thing couldn't have happened. 🙂 It all boils down to good family relationships too.

  11. Jean Monique Sanchez February 18, 2009 at 9:48 pm Reply

    Kahit na…In my opinion, kids shouldn't be doing this things yet. They should be playing with other playmates (outside of the bedroom) doing things like playing hide-and-seek, hopscotch, or computer games.If they're not the athletic-type, they should be reading books instead. Diba? Hehe. 😀

  12. Jean Monique Sanchez February 18, 2009 at 9:48 pm Reply


  13. jp recto February 18, 2009 at 10:50 pm Reply

    pano mo nga ba tuturuan ang anak mo about "the birds and the bees"? nyahahaha!"o anak…ganito yan ha… blah blah…" hahaha… hard thing really, especially for our country… di pa rin masyadong open ang mga tao sa usaping ito.pero ang bata pa nila!!! kawawa naman no? (tsaka di sila bagay nyahahaha)anyway, thanks ate moe for sharing this 🙂

  14. Revina Que February 18, 2009 at 11:42 pm Reply

    Whoa, shocking! The guy really doesn't look 13.

  15. Eunice Dy Kim Ching February 19, 2009 at 8:40 am Reply

    Napanood ko din yan sa news. There was also a 5-yr. old mom di ba?

  16. KIKAY KATITAY February 19, 2009 at 11:57 am Reply

    agree!!! same tayo ng point. 🙂 pero, uhh, what i'm trying to say is kung diba nga noon sa panahon nina Aga nangyarin na yan, what more pa kaya ngayon.. 😦 and eto na nga! :(( kawawa sila sobra..

  17. Jean Monique Sanchez February 21, 2009 at 9:30 pm Reply

    Hehe. Parang yung girl, anak nya pareho. Hehe. *mean girl mode*Anyway, you can talk about it to your children… at a proper time. 🙂 Before children turns 12, parents should focus on giving their children extra curricular activities that would encourage holistic development. 🙂 Like piano lessons, football, etc. 🙂 Diba?

  18. Jean Monique Sanchez February 21, 2009 at 9:30 pm Reply

    Oo nga eh. Parang 6 or 8 lang no? 😦

  19. Jean Monique Sanchez February 21, 2009 at 9:31 pm Reply

    Hi Eunice! 😀 Congrats ah!!! :DYeah… 5 years old. Pero may defect ata talaga sya sa katawan that made her ovulate so early. Hehe. Parang ganon. Haay. Parang kapatid lang nya yun. 😦

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